Men Deserve To Be Spoiled Too!

A couple of blogs ago, I talked about how to turn a woman on before touching her. I touched base on how men and women are very different from one another. Most importantly, I explained how being a man, stepping up and taking care of her needs is very sexy and a huge turn on… but what about men? Do you get nothing? Do you get left blowing in the wind like a white flag of surrender? Absolutely NOT! Don’t worry gentlemen, I see you! I feel you and I understand that men want to feel wanted, needed and appreciated too!

I find now a days a lot of women are hyper focused on what men can do for them and less focused on what they can do for a man. Mind you, there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting financially stable man that takes care of business and get things done. However, showing that man that we appreciate all that he does for us is extremely important! No one likes to give to someone that is always taking and I’m sure that no man wants to provide for someone that doesn’t seem grateful or worse yet… entitled! Spoiling a man in our own way allows us to show him that we aren’t necessarily expecting him to do these things. Instead, it shows that we are grateful for what he does! Every woman wants to be treated like a Queen but, a Queen is nothing without her King and it’s about time women started treating him like the King that he is if he has earned it. Not every man is a King, some are mere princes or worst yet, court jesters… but if a man has proven himself worthy through his efforts then he deserves nothing less but the best treatment.

I’m writing this blog because of a tweet I once posted. I tweeted that I gifted one of my most loyal and financially supportive clients a Versace cologne set and that he loved it. Someone responded to my tweet saying how stupid I was and that I was doing things backwards. She told me I was a fool for giving my gifts when they should be the ones gifting and spoiling me. I replied and told her that my clients spoil me just fine, and that this gift was a thank you for their birthday. Think about it… out of the thousands of dollars this client single handedly spent on me last year, what was a $200 gift to me? It was nothing to gift him something like that for all that he’s done… for all the bills he helped me pay… I’m not a selfish person and I enjoy showing others how much I appreciate them when they’ve earned such appreciation. He was so happy for the gift and the surprise and joy on his face was EVERYTHING to me. I was all too happy to make him happy because I felt he earned and deserved such special treatment. Not all of my clients get gifts from me but there are some who earned them!

Another gentleman helped me a lot financially last year as well but I had to be more careful about what kind of gift to give him. I spent a lot of time (and some money) designing a t-shirt for him and he loved it so much! It was honestly the least I could do to show him I appreciated him and his kindness and that his generosity does not go unnoticed! Doing that is important to me and I think it should be important to every woman that wants good men around them. We cannot ask and ask and ask without giving anything in return! Reciprocity is all about the balance of give and take and without this balance there is no order. There will only be resentment in the end. Women need to stop using pussy to express gratitude. Don’t get me wrong, I’m sure a man would not turn down or complain about receiving physical pleasure for his efforts but when that’s the only way a woman can say thank you it starts to lose meaning. Especially if he can also get the exact same thing one day when she’s just horny and he didn’t have to do anything for it. It loses its novelty and it's no longer special when he does all these different things for her and he continuously gets the same reward every time.

I feel like women should start thinking outside the box and show you that she was thinking about you. Here’s a great example of what I mean; I remember getting my ex boyfriend a new wallet because he didn’t have one and he was always losing money in his pocket. When I asked him why he didn’t just get a wallet and told me that he hated having a huge bulky wallet in his back pocket which made it uncomfortable to sit on. Or if it was in his front pocket it’s a huge unnecessary bulge. That conversation got me thinking and so I searched online and I found one that was slim, functional and stylish. It was a simple wallet, but it truly meant a lot to him. In fact, he once lost the wallet and started freaking out. He was more concerned about the wallet itself than the contents inside. It was special to him simply because I gave it to him, I thought of him and he didn’t even ask me to get it for him. His wallet had become sentimental to him! I was happy to see him happy and I felt good knowing that he cherished it so much.

You are not a slave, you are not an ATM machine and women should never treat you as such just because you’re a man and you take care of her needs and desires! When I see this happening, it’s no wonder that men think that every other woman is a gold digger! Keep in mind that there ARE good women out there who are thoughtful and caring and very aware of themselves and others. On the other hand, there is a saying I hear all the time. “Closed mouths don’t get fed!” Some men don’t vocalize how they want to be treated by women because they take care of everything and they don’t want to appear weak by asking for anything or expressing their needs and desires. I really don’t think it’s so wrong to vocalize that you enjoy feeling appreciated. I think it’s ok to vocalize that you enjoy the little things she does to show you that she cares. Women are very in tune to emotions and if you open up and show her how you feel, she may surprise you when you least expect it. Just like I did with my ex and his wallet.

Don’t be afraid to talk to her! You don’t necessarily need to ask her for anything at all! Simply open your heart up and tell her about the things you enjoy, or how something makes you feel. Tell her what’s on your mind and the right woman will be taking mental notes throughout the conversation. Next thing you know, it’s your birthday and she gifted you a massage because you’ve been saying a lot lately how much your back hurts and you wish you had the time to get a massage! Or even better, she decides to give you one herself. Most women naturally know how to read between the lines and we often can tell how someone is feeling without them having to say anything at all. That’s why in general, we’ve coined the term “A Woman’s Intuition” and a term for her male counter part doesn’t exist. If you let on that you don’t need or want anything then how can she feel free to do something nice and consider you? Maybe she found a tie that matches your eyes and wanted to get it for you but you’ve expressed that you don’t need anything from her but a smile. She wouldn’t want to upset you by getting you something against your wishes. So, often times the woman gets to be spoiled, and the man doesn’t get much in return. If you throw hints that all you want from her is her body, then that’s all you’re going to get when she wants to say thank you for all you’ve done for her! How can men be upset and claim that women bring nothing to the table when all they really asked of her is just to show up and look pretty?

A real woman is only all too happy to spoil, treat and cater to a man that has proven that he can great care of her! We naturally want to make him happy when he’s evidently so worked hard to ensure her happiness! Just like when a pet does something good, we enjoy giving them a treat. Or when a child brings home a good report card, or helps out more around the house, we enjoy giving them something that makes them happy because they worked hard to ensure that we are happy. It’s the same concept here (Disclaimer: This isn’t to say that I think men are animals or children. Some definitely are [insert eye roll here], but that is NOT a general consensus!).

In conclusion, there are so many men that deserve to be spoiled and just aren’t! I believe that it’s time to change that! Women should definitely make more of an effort to show how much we appreciate you, but men we need your help with that too! Don’t be afraid to share with women the things that make you tick. Be open and talk about what makes you happy or even the things that you appreciate. Give SOME indication that you’d like more than just that favourite spot between her legs. You owe it to yourself because you definitely deserve to be spoiled too!